NEVER GIVE UP

Never give up. Three words we often hear, honestly, easier said than done. A lot of times we come across people who are in need of some support and maybe a bit of sympathy. And a lot of times it happens that we end up telling them to never give up. Well, most of us, say this without even thinking for a split second if what I am saying is relevant to his situation or not. And a lot of times we say this without even trying to analyze their situation completely. That brings me to a question. Why? Why do we do this? Well, ummmmmm… maybe it’s the easiest way to escape the situation and the possible crying and whining that we, most of the times, have no interest about. In books or movies, we see a lot of times that most of problems and worries are summed up and solved by never give up and it actually works wonders as well. In real life however, it rarely happens. That’s probably the reason why it’s called life.

Okay, so am I being pessimistic? If you want to think that way, then fine I might be, just a little though. I would however like to see myself as more of a realist than pessimist or an optimist. Having called myself a realist doesn’t however in no way means I am rebuffing my belief about this and also the fact how my life has shaped up, because of this. I am in simple words trying to iterate just as much it’s important to believe in “never giving up” it is also important to know that giving up doesn’t always means you’ve conceded defeat. It simply means, sometimes you are strong enough to let go. (Well that’s taken from a post on facebook that I stumbled on a while back).

Let me ask you a question before we really get started. How many times have you been in a situation where giving up seemed to be the only way out? How many times have you thought and told yourself “Fuck this.... I am quitting”? How many times have you been in a situation where no one seemed to be on your side, let alone your friends? How many times have you been in a situation when everything you do just seems to fall apart and the road ahead seems to be rather tricky or impossible to walk on through? Just imagine yourself in that situation. And now, create a picture of yourself telling me about everything you are going through. What would you expect from me? Probably, some words of sympathy and a bit of understanding and a lot of encouragement. Right?? Well, I am no different and I am sure everyone else would expect and want the same thing. Now imagine if I just ended everything by just saying “Never give up”. How would you feel? I don’t think it will help in a big way. If you ask me the same, then I guess I might just as well tell you to fuck off, you don’t know a shit about what I am going through. I am not sure if you would. But I would for sure.

Often, I have been guilty of misjudging people for who they are, without even knowing who they were and what they’ve been through. It’s hard not to do it sometimes, because I have always been of that belief, that a man can overcome anything if he really wanted to. But honestly, that’s not the truth. A lot of people fail. A lot of people give up and a lot of people die trying. Well again, yes, we do all go through different situation and we should always be strong enough to face what life throws at us. Because I believe if god gives us a problem, then there is a solution for that as well and giving up is absolutely not that option.

Giving up is rather easy thing, it’s not and will never be the solution however a lot of people do give up. I do the same too, a lot of times, sometimes even after telling myself to be strong. Words do always come easy; however there is a huge difference between saying it and actually doing it. Not a lot of people can live up to their words. Me????? I have been a failure in that more often than not.

Well, the point is that, lately, I have been thinking about people, addiction and facing life when you have nothing going for you and  a lot of people do live through this and come out of it, happier than ever. Only because they never gave up.  If holding on is not easy for me, then I think it won’t be for them as well. However they do succeed in overcoming everything, every obstacle and every problem. Not because they are stronger than me, not because the guy above loves them more than me, and not because they came with super powers. But only because, they believed. And when you have that power of belief and will, then I think nothing in this world can stop you from doing what you want and getting what you have wished for. I’m sure I don’t need any example to prove this.

And to sum up everything, let me just phrase something I read a while back. “We are stronger than we think, and there is not a single thing we can't do. All we need is a bit of faith, and if we don't have faith, we have nothing.” Ah, well it's just a random thing that popped up in my mind and posted on twitter. So, yeah it's me again telling everyone not to give up on what they wished for and not to give up on life, because everything has it's purpose, the smiles, the tears and the laughters, everything. And one day you'll see that everything you went through will make you a better person. It may difficult to hold on but it's even harder to regret your whole life.

Just walk on.

Take care.

Adios.