LEARNING NEVER STOPS

Ever since I complained about the hectic schedule at work and the long work hours, that’s taken a toll on me, unexpectedly, the work load has reduced. Since then, I have had a lot of breathing space at work. It’s been kind of welcomed change, more so because it has been just a bit too hectic at work. Things have changed ever since, up to the extent that I am now writing this, while I drink my tea… And guess where? Of course at work, on my desk.

  
Talk about work, then it had taught me few things, while a lot might sound a bit selfish to you however still handy in everyday life. For instance, I've always been taught to help others in every possible way. “If people aren't as good to us still then help them anyway.” That’s what I've been taught ever since I've come to senses. But it doesn't really apply to my work here. Here, if you help people out of goodwill, they will, in almost every case turn on you and expect the same every time. And if you ever fail someday, then it is and will surely turn against you. That is a fact. That’s how it works here. Though personally I love helping people here, however, it annoys me when they fail to acknowledge the work. So, the first thing that I've learnt here is, help people, however first analyze who is to help and how they should be helped. Helping people for every small thing can turn against you. Once again, against the teaching I received as a kid, however much handy in life if followed properly.

           The other thing that my work taught me is how to put my words across. This is banking and people here usually don’t care about what we do for them; however they are happy with the kind of words we shower on them. For example, you can give someone a plain “NO”, which can be rude sometimes or you can twist your words in a way it pleases the ears. Words, how you say it and how you put it across really makes an impression, not just in the bank but in everyday life. I have learnt, a lot of people are just happy with two nice words and it can really work wonders sometimes. Politeness never hurts anyone.

We all as humans, love a lot of things about ourselves, and our pride and ego is one of them. However bad the person might be, just never hurt someone’s ego, most of us, especially guys, love it more than anything else in the world. It stays with them. A lot of people that I come across here at this place either come with a smile on their faces or with huge egos in their personality. If it's a smile on the face, then it's not a problem, who doesn't love a smile on someone's face. However it it's a ego that they carry around with them, then we have a problem. Honestly, though it annoys me to no end sometimes and I prefer to stay away from these kinds of people more often than not, however dealing with them helps in understanding different kind of people and how to deal with them when face to face. I have seen, nothing makes a man happier than making him believe you respect them for who they are and you are in awe of them, well kind of. If you do them, treat them with respect, though just from the outside, it pleases them to no end. And a happy proudy man can be and is, in most cases, the best man to deal with. This however I find the hardest of them all, however as a banker I go through in my everyday life, and honestly, I kind of mastered the art of doing it as well. I do, have my fair share of ego in me as well, however keeping that aside has helped me a lot. It’s not always the best thing to actually, face ego with ego. When dealing with kind of self-centred person, it’s always best to not show yours. This is one very good thing to follow, because if by faking something, you bring someone delight and preserve their self respect, then I think it’s not a very bad thing to do.

They say hard work pays off in the long run, and I say “You must mix hard work with smart work”. For simple reason, hard work can get everything sorted in time; however it can really take a toll on your body and mind. However smart work can not only reduce the work load, it also reduces the physical and mental pressure. If you know how to do it, then you’d enjoy work with greater success. I have in, my short career as a banker haven’t been able to pertain that much as yet, however this is something I've learnt over the course of past 5-6 years. I used to be one of those, dumb hard working guy, who’d work his ass off without much of a result. That has changed since long, I have developed a petite knack of mixing hard and smart work, and honestly, things have become much smoother. Well, that is of course, in terms of work and studies.

Speaking, telling someone what you feel and what and how you do things, has its fun, however it is very important to be a good listener. We all listen to our close ones, like friends and family, but listening to a stranger giving you a lot of crap, isn't quite as cool. Being a public servant, I face a lot of people like that, who just wouldn’t stop, either they’d go on bragging about themselves or they just come up with their everyday shit, a lot of times it exasperates me to the core. Though, it kills a good chunk of productive time for me, however it fulfills the criteria of being a good customer service provider, which in turn is one of the basic quality that we must have. Being a listener, to all these people, especially strangers have also helped me develop patience in me. This has been one of my weak points for a long time, for a simple reason, that I haven’t been a listener for my whole life.  If I am to listen, the first thing I need to have is patience. If I don’t have it, then I am not a good listener. Simple.

We exist in a society, where in some way or the other, we affect each other’s life. Small things we do matter a lot and sometimes the smaller they are, the bigger the consequences. Sometimes, we either ignore or are just blind to what we do or how we affect people, however these small things do offer us a lot to learn. And if used properly, it can be life changing. It might not give us the best; it will however make our lives a lot better than what it is now. We, all learn from things we do, schools or colleges we attend and also from the place we work at. Life never ceases to amaze and to teach, no one has and will never learnt everything that life has to offer, we all learn things one by one and in due time. I am not in any way trying to imply here that I have learnt a lot, however I can claim that I have become a better person and have developed a better understanding of things around me.

Okay, so this is it for the time being, I will continue with the experience at work in weeks to come, however as of now. I shall take you excuse. Will see you very soon, until then, take care and stay safe.

Adios!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DECISION MAKING: THE HARD CHOICE

Choices..... It's easy sometimes and difficult others. I mean we all go through a phase where we need to make some choices, about life, relations, career or everything. Sometimes, these choices are about small things (however, with bigger consequences) and sometimes they are about bigger issues (however, small consequences). Whatever they are or they might be, it's not always the easiest thing to make choices, well, not at-least for me. I have always been one of the people who lacks the precision when it comes to choosing something or making decisions. I need a second opinion in most of the cases, however small or big issues they are, I can't remember clearly if there is one decision that I made on my own. Honestly, there has been very few.

 

Let me begin with a question.... How many times have you had this thought of taking second opinion? How many times have you thought someone else might know things better than you and it'd be better if you asked them before actually doing it? And how many times have had this doubt about your plans that you had to consult other, even without liking it a bit? If there has been then I think we are more or less the same, as I go through the same thing every time I plan on doing something. I am always unsure about things that I am doing or I am planning to do.

Honestly, I am at the age and situation where I should be deciding things on my own and implementing it. However, that is not the case. Inside I am still like that lost kid who always needs a guidance and opinion. Decision making has never been my strength, I have always ended up taking second opinion or consulting people, that maybe because I don't have much confidence about my knowledge and am always unsure about what I am planning to do and the consequences that might occur afterwards. That's one of the main reasons why I end without doing the things that I planned or without buying things that I want. It does happen a lot of times with me.

Let me give you few situations. I had been planning to buy a tab for a while now, however because of my old habit of consulting, I haven't bought it yet. And it's been more than eight months since I had planned this. I ended up choosing something and then asked everyone around about the feedback and everything. And now I am more confused than ever, as to which one to choose or what to buy or whether I should buy it or whether I really need it or not. All these doubts now fill my head and I haven't been able to make up my mind and decide on what I should do.

The other time, I had planned to buy a laptop. I had my eyes set on a Sony VAIO, however as it's always happened, I made the mistake or should I say, repeated the same thing of asking my friends and relatives about laptops and everything. After consulting everyone possible now I am confused, which one I should go for. Everyone has a suggestion and a brand that they trust, which does not necessarily match to what I had in mind. And call it lack of decisiveness as you like, now I am confused. And I think, I'd end up not buying anything for a while. Annoying it might be, but that's who I am that's how I am.

Friends sometimes get annoyed with it, but I just can't help it. I just wanna be sure about what I am doing and everything.

That has however it's own advantages. For one, it helps me not to do things in haste without thinking about it, which in a long run is helpful in choosing what is the best for me, well in most cases it has and I believe it will. And two, it increases the knowledge. I mean, it helps me know about things in proper way. So, I think it helps and it's not a very bad thing to do.

However, by doing so, I have become more reliant on people and now it's hard for me to decide on things. Well, there are few things I decide without taking any second opinion however, I always tell my folks about what I am doing. After all, it's better that way., Though, it's not good to be overtly reliant on people. It reduces your judgmental power, for after all, it's I, who needs to decide on what I do and what I don't.

I have tried and many times, I have decided that I will not do it, however as they say, old habits die hard. It happens every time. Sometimes it does happen just out of habit, without me even planning on doing it.

Annoying? Yeah, it sure is annoying and very much annoying. I don't know what I am gonna do or how I am gonna manage when I am older, well older than this. And when I have a family of my own. Well, it's not as bad to ask opinions around however not the best way to be always reliant on people. 

If you are one of those people, then I guess I have something to tell you and here is a piece of advice for everyone who reads it. It's good to take second opinion or at-least letting your folks know about what you are and will do, but make sure that you draw a line as to where you use your own conscience and make a decision. Some decision can be really big, up to an extent of being life changer for someone, and in those cases it's always better to consult someone who has better experience and better knowledge, maybe someone older. Though, being old doesn't necessarily gives you the wisdom to always choose the right thing, however experience counts. The more things you go through, the different kind of situation you go through, the more ideas you have, as to how to tackle it, or should I say face it. That's what experience is all about, and in life, it counts. It's never bad to consult your elders however do so, only when it is really important and just refrain from being too dependent on them. Because as it is, we end up blaming others whenever something goes wrong, especially when we have taken a second opinion. So, to save yourself from that blame-game, just be reliant on your knowledge and your ability but don't hesitate if there is any need of a second opinion.

Especially those people who matter to you, because your decision most of the times, effects them and it doesn't hurt to think about what is beneficial for everyone around (well,not everyone but “Everyone”).

However, let me tell you, this is just what I think and doesn't necessarily be applicable in your case. Just try and think about it, for decision making is no child's play and obviously, it should be done after carefully thinking about it. And make sure you do that in future. I can assure you, you'd be much happier if that happens.

Well,  that's it for now. I leave you with a lot to think about. I shall see you very soon.  Till then take care and stay safe. 

Adios!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SECOND COMING...... WELL, SORT OF.

Helloooooooo.............!!!!!!!!!!!!

I AM BACK........!!!!!!!!!!

It's been quite a long time. Oh yeah, it has been. I don't don't know why? But for some reasons I kept myself away from writing for so long. It seems like a decade to me to be very honest. But if i say that so, honestly, I would be lying. Honestly though, things at work were slightly out of hands, which meant i had very little or no time at all to write or do something else. Been meaning to write something or the other for a while but just couldn't find the time and also there was very few exciting things happening in my life worth writing about, unless I start writing about what I do at work, what I eat and what do I do when I have an off. Obviously, no one is interested in knowing all that crap. And I will, for that matter, save you from the misery of going through all that.

So, days, weeks and months have gone by, I for one, would assume that all my readers, especially you are doing fine (not even sure how many actually read this thing).

Things, have been pretty ordinary here with me, have seen very few exciting things in this past six months or so. Though I would rule out that nothing exciting happened at all during this time the days were too far and few in between. Nevermind, there were days when I had my share of fun, and there were days when I just hoped it to end sooner than it usually does, which in simple words we call it as very boring days. And if I talk about work, it has been nothing less than mega-hectic, for different reasons, but yeah!!!! It has been very hectic few months and I had been longing to get out of this mess for a while.

But in all, I wouldn't deny the fact that the days went by sooner than I had expected, maybe it was because of the work schedule, which was in every sense keeping me busy for almost 10 hours in a day. Tiring, it may be I am still, in a way thankful that it helped me kill time. If not for work, time just doesn't seem to move. If you don't believe me, then you should see me on weekends. It is nothing less than a struggle to go through the entire day, and I swear I kid you not!!!!!!

You know, sometimes, leading a normal life has it's own advantages though. It saves you all the drama and the heartache you go through, which could in a way, ruin your peace of mind for few days, weeks or maybe even month. And it's better especially, when you lead a hectic life as mine, mainly because it doesn't put you in a situation, where you need to think too much, or really put an effort despite of being low, to get things straight. These are the situation that I try to avoid or I must say, I'd do anything to avoid. Honestly, sometimes, I do think about all these stars who lead a life watched by millions of people everyday and I can't help but feel pity for them. Sometimes I do wish to be in their shoes, however most of the times, I am better off the way I am. For I wouldn't be able to handle the same pressure they go through everyday. Being famous looks fun, however it has a heavy price to pay and honestly, I am not ready for that, not that anyone cares though.

Talk about celebrities, then Christina Aguilera has been the flavour of the month for me though, well for quite sometimes now. I've liked her since she made her debut, however I never knew she could really be that powerful with her vocals until I heard some of her songs from the recent albums, well, not that recent. Been all into her for a while, kinda listening non-stop to her. No particular reasons for that, however she has created some powerful songs both lyrically and vocally. In my view, she's one of the most under-rated singers of all time and she deserves the respect given out to the likes of Mariah Carey, Celine Dion etc.

Okay, that's said. There are a lot of things exciting me. First there is my supposed trip to Delhi, yeah, once again I am going home and not to forget the beginning of new season in the EPL. Been waiting for it for a while now, though the cable connection here doesn't show much of it, however still excited with it. Liverpool looks good to me this season, no major signing but there is a hint of confidence in the players and also the coach. I think they'll be big this time around. The only problem would be the drama surrounding Suarez and his departure. Well, sincerely hoping he stays and I am sure he will.

Okay we are going to meet a lot more often and I will be much more regular around here, just that I need some time, as in free time, which i am planning to squeeze in, in between work and my spare time.

Happy days are here. It so feels like a second coming for me. How long has it been?? Let me guess, four months??? Maybe more. Being away for so long, it seems like ages to me, this place however still welcomes me and puts a smile on my face, whenever I see people commenting on my craps. It just makes me happy. Well, sort of. Gotta see you very soon. Gotta get me ready for the Delhi trip. A lot still needs to be done before I leave. So, I will see you when I get to Delhi. Till then take care and stay safe.

Adios!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!